(from the series “Godly Wisdom for a New Millennium”)
by Michael Catt
I. The Problem Defined
Dave Carder divides affairs into three classes: 1) The one-night stand (David and Bathsheba) 2) The entangled affair (Samson & Delilah) 3) Sexual addiction (Eli's son in 1 Sam. 2:22)
II. The Background Principles
A. The Ground Rules 1) We're not here to point fingers. 2) That does not mean we will rationalize or justify sin as it is spelled out in Scripture. 3) For the believer, sexual adultery is spiritual adultery. 4) It's a risk with little reward. 5) Being saved doesn't take away temptation. 6) Emotional adultery can lead to physical adultery. 7) If a person is involved in an affair, they don't really know the person they are involved with. The "love" is a delusion. 8) God hates divorce--and everyone who has ever been divorced hates it too. 9) God loves sinners and offers forgiveness if they will forsake their sin. 10) This subject should be approached with a proper blend of mercy and truth. God's clear command (1 Corinthians 6; Exodus 20:14) Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary - adultery means "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and somene other than her husband. Fornication means, "sexual intercourse among unmarried people." "Even though the majority of people I have seen involved in affairs are committed Christians and know what the Word of God says about adultery, appealing to this knowledge does not usually cause them to stop the involvement. Appeals to family, mother, church, or even job security also have negligable effects. In chapter 5, he begins to paint a picture that it will take him three chapters to complete. 5:2 - I will either have discretion or I'll walk in deception. 5:3 - I will either listen to lies or I'll embrace truth. 5:4 - I may find momentary pleasure in my affair, but I'll end up lonely, broken, and cut to the core. 5:5 - There are consequences to sin that I can't control once I cave ito my cravings. 5:6 - If I live my life for the moment, I'll loose control over the direction of m life. 5:7-14 - This passage describes the grief the adulterer brings on himself. 5:15-19 - This passage outlines God's alternative to immorality.
III. The Instructions for Sexuality
A. Don’t buy the lie.
B. Don’t settle for second best.
C. God’s Word is not for prudes; it’s for those who want to be pure.
D. Having fun has nothing to do with happiness. Happiness has nothing to do with having fun.
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